Joining-Conformity vs. Independence-Nonconformity

Over the past few months, there have been many topics on which I have wanted to write about, but because of being without something to write on, or having a topic which I thought was inadequate at the time, I haven’t written anything, till now.

I may have written on this subject before, but I can say that this is a topic very close to me.

I am an American living in Mexico, which is in itself is a trial in many ways, but not all. The main difference I have found difficult to adjust to is space. We Americans love our space! Just look at our streets – wide and long. Our freeways and turnpikes; wide and smooth. Our sidewalks; wide, smooth and typically clean; our personal space – distance. Mexico? Small, narrow, short and close (typically).

QuestionAuthorityOne of the things that is individualistic is nonconformity. From my point of view, the world is a place of conformity – everyone has to be alike to succeed, and most everyone I know has bought into that idea – even those who say that they’re independent.

Someone I know is constantly “annoying” me to join a religion she belongs too. I constantly refuse to do so, so the next thing I hear is, “If you don’t join my religion, I’ll never see you again”, and there is usually a slight variation to that. My reply has been, “In my journeys, I have met and befriended many people from many walks of life, and many different religions, and those who profess no religion. What all of them, as well as us have in common is, all of us have experienced “miracles” – things that have happened in our lives which we can not explain. What I have come to know is, our Creator doesn’t care about our religions, after all, religions were created by man (see the book of Genesis for reference). Man has gone to war over religion, and conformity.”

Conformity takes on many different covers/descriptions. Many think that tatoos, body-piercings, coloring your hair green, pink, red, blue, multi-colors, etc. is nonconformity. Really? How many others are doing the same thing? Why? If people are still wearing their pants below their buttocks, that’s not nonconformity, and many that I’ve spoken with don’t know why they do it, other than they know someone else doing the same, and without knowing what it means.

In the 1990’s, the “New Age Movement” hit it’s high and it seemed that there were a lot of people trying to ride that band wagon to fame and riches. Books and classes in some kind of new age science were abounding. I tried also, but not by writing a book, just from giving classes. I started out with free classes – no one attended. I charged a little and got a little; I charged more and got more (weird). When I got a packed room, I asked, “What’s the difference between this class and the class I offered for free?” Everyone who answered replied, “I don’t know, what?” My reply?



Conformity tells us that if it costs nothing, that must be its value.

Now, here in Mexico, I do two things: I teach English (P and C Advanced English), and I perform holistic therapies, which is curative, or maintenance for the mind, body and soul (La Verdadera Salud Texcoco). What makes my teaching and therapies so different? Let me explain in short form:

  • In teaching English, most everyone (I don’t know everyone) here teaches with books. They teach young and old as if they’re in high school or university. They can tear a sentence apart, but holding a conversation? I teach in a combination of ways; non of us learned our native languages from a book. Perfected? Yes. We listened, watched, spoke and praticed along with making mistakes until we got it right. I do somewhat the same, except I teach the multiple meanings of words. For example, “My computer is broken, I need to fix it.” and, “Fix the picture to that wall.” or, “The bathroom is in a fixed location.” I teach in businesses, so I have to teach effectively and books don’t help a lot.
  • In holistic therapies, I have met many people who have come to me saying that they have been to two to four doctors trying to get relief for a problem, only to continue suffering with the same problem(s). What I have learned is, doctors usually try to help you by attacking the problems you have, i.e., if you have a stomach ache, here is something for that problem. I on the other hand want to know what caused the problem, then solve your problem(s) from that angle. So far, I’ve had a lot of successes.

Thinking GPatton

There are a lot of differences between nonconformity and rebellion and you would do well to know them, but for now, being a nonconformist means being yourself in a world which wants you to be the same because you’re easier to control. If you conform, you won’t question the difference between police and sheriff: morally correct and legally correct: what is accepted and what is correct, and so much more. I also understand that there is a certain amount of comfort in being a part of the crowd – the boat seldom gets rocked, everything is the same everyday, you’ve reached your goal and growing more isn’t anything you’re interested in… the list goes on. Well, if that’s what you want, have it. You have a role in life. For the true nonconformist, we do not hold that against you – that is you. Quite seriously, “Live well and prosper!”

If I have done nothing more than help you to think about something different, I have accomplished my goal. I am a nonconformist. I am alone, but not lonely. However, I am also a bit unique in a different way. Learn something about personality types. Here is something in video form which will teach you a bit more – for those who don’t have the time or patience to read. I am an “INTF“. This is a (short) YouTube (video) link.

Now, ask yourself again, “Who and what am I, and why?”

Whatever you do, be true to yourself.



The Great Social Experiment

We say we’re all connected, yet we thrive on what divides us.

There was a television series on cable(?) titled, “Falling Skies” not long ago which was about earth being invaded by aliens.  This was a very well written series.  The story was about a group of aliens which destroyed most of the earth. Its remnant survivors were at times encouraged kindly to accept life on what we’d call, “reservations”.  Of course, the star of the series, and those who followed him, refused the offer and fought to the bitter end – which they of course won.

One of the scenes in season one, episode seven was when the opposition/resistance fighters captured one of the enslaved aliens – ones who had been enslaved from its youth told the star of the program that while humans kill their own, they’d never kill one of their own.  This hit me as an all out truth about humanity.

As a race of beings, we most often think of ourselves as being superior to all other life on this planet.  We study life in almost all ways available to us; some have found ways to alter life, and from what I hear, some think they have created life, in some form or fashion.  The thing we seem to have lost is, quality of life – true quality.  Politicians and corporations, along with their teams of scientists would have us believing they have created a better life for our whole planet.  The question we should be asking ourselves is, “By whose standards?”  These are the same people who have taken control of our planet financially and have each of us believing we have to pay them to live on a planet they neither created, or bought. However,The Great Social Experiment most of us in Western civilization have taken well to the belief that we are born into a material world, so it’s only natural to work, buy, vacation (if and when possible), work some more, have children that you give over to the state and ‘social norms’ which someone other than you have created, work some more, then die… OH!  Don’t forget to take your daily dose of prescription medicines… they have to keep you in control, after all.

Our so-called world leaders have outlawed nature, but do nothing to legalize free thought and encourage self-responsibility.  You are owned, but don’t realize it.  You doubt it?  Try doing something that harms no one… such as “living off of the grid” as the expression goes – living in a home that does not need electricity, public water service or even a sewage system; if the government knows about it, you’ll most likely find yourself in court, fighting for your right to live cleanly on your own.  There are many other experiments you can try, just to find out how free you are.

Religion and the State:

Since I really don’t want to get into writing a book, nor a thesis on this subject, let’s briefly cover two topics which have been in the news recently:

Not long ago, a county clerk (a government employee) in Kentucky decided that her beliefs outweighed a government law/ruling.  In brief, she failed to exercise her duties, which neither hurt or harmed anyone.  Now, she has every right to take her beliefs to the system in which she works (worked?) and have the government reconsider their ruling, but since this law neither hurts or harms anyone, she should exercise her oath of office, or resign.  I see nothing wrong with what Mrs. Davis believes, it is biblically based beliefs, but remember, the U.S.A. is a secular nation, not one built on anyone’s religion.  As I’ve stated about gay and lesbian marriages before:

Gay’s and lesbians are HUMANS first and foremost!  How you treat them says more about you, than what it says about them.  If you don’t really understand why they are as they are – not your biased point of view which is based on beliefs, not facts, then the onus is on you to accept and understand, or be bigoted.

In my youth, I was a member of a Protest Christian denomination, that happened to be, and still is, very fundamental.  I was raised to believe that anyone outside of our (now their) denomination was sure to burn in Hell’s fire.  There are many to this day that believe this to be true of their denomination and religion.  This is why there are so many atheists picking on Christianity – not so much for those that live their faith quietly and in harmony with most everyone else, but for those who are always on a “soap-box”, proclaiming their faith and beliefs.

The one religion which has caught up to, and in some ways, surpassed ‘radical’ Christianity is ‘radical’ Islam.  In days of old, Christianity had its darker side; torture, crusades (overly exaggerated by most), forced “conformity” (the word most used in dictionaries with Christianity), then Protestantism, which brought on a whole new light on conformity.  But after a few centuries of ‘darkness’, the adherents to such strictness, relaxed and learned to live, or as the expression goes, “play nicely with others”.

Radical Islam (Islam’s word origin comes from the Arabic, meaning, “surrender”.  Muslim’s word origin is, “Person who submits”), though in some ways similar to Christianity, is really different.  While Christianity demands conformity, Islam is demanding surrender to their way of life – then you will have peace.  Ummmm…. peace maybe with Allah, but not with each other apparently.

Here are two points I hope to explain well here:

  1. For those who fight against Christians who are genuinely loving, just because they’re Christians, why?  If someone… anyone shows you genuine love, do you really need to know their beliefs?  If a person is wearing a crucifix while helping you, are you truly going to refuse the persons help?  Don’t let the few who give any group of people a bad name be all you know and accept.
  2. With Islam, I have a constant battle in thought about them.  While there are many Muslim’s who are genuinely kind and trustworthy, the problem these days is what is constantly in the media – mainstream media as well as alternative media.  My issues are:  The Koran (English spelling) tells its followers that it’s not only acceptable, but a requirement to lie (tell an untruth) to the infidel (us non-Muslim’s) to accomplish their goals for Allah.  In my broad, but still limited knowledge of other religions, Islam is the only one I know which makes this statement.  So, with this being stated, and with my own experiences with American Muslim’s, and a few Iranian Muslim’s living and studying here, who showed me they are far from being radical, how do we come to a common ground with the influx of immigrants?  How does one tell a poisonous snake from a non-poisonous one?  Not all snakes are poisonous.  Please note: I’m not equating Islam to snakes, but this will become clear when you listen to the words of the video below.

Although there is one thing old and some modern Christians and Muslim’s still have in common: get rid of the original – without Judaism, there wouldn’t be any Christianity; and doubtfully, there would be an Islam.  These two religions don’t want others to know their roots – after all, when the “New and Improved” version of anything comes along, don’t you get rid of the original?

However, during WWII, there were many Christian’s and Muslim’s who helped Jew’s to escape from the Nazi’s, so here are your non-poisonous. There are people everywhere that see and know that we are humans first – all of us live upon the same earth and have equal rights to the earth and each other.  We know that what we do, more than what we say is what our children will learn… and their children.  If we really want a planet of peace, it has to start with each of us, individually, then to our community, then it spreads from there.  Word of note, I’m not saying that this way of life should automatically make the peaceful person a victim to anyone who comes along to force themselves upon us, but be wise and always seek the least violent path, till there is no other way to save yourself and those you care for, the truly peaceful.

I may continue this thought at a later date, but for now, here is the reason I was using the word snake above.  Please listen to the words of the song and understand it with what I’ve expressed above.

There are poisonous snakes, and the non-poisonous.  There are violent dogs, and non-violent.  There are people of peace, there are violent people.  How can we tell the difference?

And one last question:  Is the State influencing your religion? Or is your religion influencing the State?

… or are they working hand-in-hand for control and submission?

Creationist vs. Science – WHY?

Here is a debate/fight that I fail to understand…

… if for no other reason, if you don’t agree, how about trying to UNDERSTAND what you don’t agree about – even if you still don’t agree, you’ll understand:

Or is it that you feel the need to make everyone believe as you do?  You do know that is called conformity, right?  Also, you do realize that no one will ever get the whole world to agree on more than just the basics – there is air, water… etc., right?

Or is it that you’re (creationists) stubborn in your beliefs that you think our Creator will go to you and tell you if your understanding is incorrect?  If you have a direct link to our Creator, then it’s time to prove it… not prove that it’s written, just that you are correct.  If you can’t, accept differences, that’s what this life is about.

My further comments are in this video:

God in a Box

During the past week since my last post, I’ve had many ideas that I thought were worthy of writing, but alas, none had “heart”.  Wednesday morning here in the America‘s, I was going to write about the hatred and all the negativity being expressed concerning the re-election of President Obama – that didn’t have heart either.  With regard to his re-election, I even had selected posts from “religious” people who were throwing literal “hissy-fits” over the election results.  One of my facebook friends posted this picture, then

“I don’t fit in your box”
– God

I re-posted it.  One friend caught on and a conversation followed.

Without divulging our conversation, but at least giving the highlights, this is pretty much what was covered:

… We are a people who love to hate for any number of reasons. Love is something we talk about, but practice in a very limited fashion.

Also, I’m one that not only believes in miracles, but lives them on a daily basis. I don’t claim to know the mind of G-d, but like Albert Einstein, it’s what I strive for. Even as Abraham Lincoln is credited for saying (paraphrased), “It’s not important that G-d is on my side, it’s far more important that I am on G-d’s side.” To live in HIS shadow means that I can be both part of a miracle, and the recipient of such; and if you wish, the observer of a/many miracle(s) that others miss.

Mankind has a L-O-N-G history of screwing things up when we forget who really is in charge, then take matters into our own hands. It’s my suggestion that instead of being so angry and upset over the outcome of an election, embrace what is and seek whatever your role is from our Creator and be a part of what He has either made or allowed and grow.

I only include this here because I made a decision yesterday – I’m not going to write about the ill’s of our world, they’re quite evident.  If this means that I lose even more of my readers, so be it.  I know that “bad news sells”, but this constant rehashing of negativity tends to drag me down with it, and in the end, I don’t like myself or the world in which we live.  I have chosen to focus on all that is great, and what can be through love and compassion.

When my now 31-year-old child was around six years old, we were on vacation and traveling cross-country by car.  Each time we stopped for gas and/or food, I’d talk with people like I’ve known them for a long time (something I learned from my father).  My daughter asked, “Dad, is there anyone that you don’t know?”  I smiled and answered her with a quote from Will Rogers, “Strangers are friends I haven’t met.”  The truth is, I like to make people smile – and think.  Whenever we have the chance, why not make a person smile?  It costs nothing and from time-to-time, the smile you just shared makes you smile too!

For some of my friends and/or readers, if you haven’t noticed by now, I do believe in G-d, and it’s based on my relationship with It.  I say “It”, “Creator”, “Source”, et al because I don’t attempt to put “Him”, “Her” in a box.  For me, it’s enough that I have conversations with our Creator, so gender is of no consequence for me.  If you’re offended by my “liberal” expressions, I guess this blog won’t be of any interest to you – but this does not mean that it will turn religious… I have no desire to make this into a religious blog, but from time-to-time, there will be quotes and thoughts that will come from a belief system.

Anyway, have a great and wonderful weekend and if I’m so inspired, there will be something here to read next week!

All the best!


Why Humanity Needs to Start Over

It’s gotten to a point that people I know, that don’t read my blog are talking with me about the worlds declining conditions.  I often say that we deserve what the future most likely will bring us and herein I’m going to give a few examples.

People I know, and have been discussing this with, on and off over the years all agree that mankind needs to start over.  Some of us have been using the expression, “I want to go home!”  We don’t feel that this is our home – and for many of us, we understand just what we’re saying and what it means, but we won’t get into that now.

Today, let’s look at some of the things we experience on a daily basis;  some of which we notice, and others we see, but pay little attention too:

Social (incl. beliefs, hatred and fascism/imperialism):  In a world that has gotten “smaller” per se, because of our increased communication capabilities, we still haven’t learned to unite as a people with the only differences that of skin color, religious and cultural differences.  We spend so much time addressing our differences than working on our similarities and what we have in common – mainly the planet we live on and depend upon for our lives.  Warring with one another is “so old-fashioned” in a world so adept in the “ability” for communication, why can’t we tell those that keep us divided to “bugger off”?  Honestly, have we become so mesmerized by our means of communication and how they work, and the media that is provided for us that we have lost the ability to talk with those that our media providers tell us are our enemies?  In communication, it only takes one person to talk to one other person and it continues from there… but we’ve gotten to the point of, “Let someone else talk to ‘those’ people.  I have my friends and my problems, that’s enough.”  IT’S NOT ENOUGH!!!  The problems persist if all of us don’t take part, and they won’t get any better unless we take part.

Years ago, an ordained pastor told me in a conversation that he, “can’t stand the French (people).”  When asked why, he only said that he never has.  I’m sorry, but I do not understand such prejudices.  Last week, a person I know insisted that all Muslims are terrible.  For the majority of my life, I’ve known and befriended many Muslims and find them to be just like everyone else.  There are far more “moderates” in Islam than the “fundamentalists” that exist in most all religions.  But of course, “because the media says they’re all bad, they must be.”  Right?  WRONG!  Just because there are neo-Nazi’s, Klu Klux Klan members and corporate business leaders out there that support separatism of one kind or another doesn’t mean that every person of European origin is bad, does it?

Environment (incl. economy)The way I see the general public talk about the environment, it’s as if it’s only a topic of discussion that – again – someone else has to repair.  If you keep buying and using the products that pollute the air our bodies need, the ground and water that gives us our food and drink (remember, you are around 80% water), you… all of us are the problem.  Let me give you some examples:

  • This year alone, many forests around the world have seen/experienced drought and fires.  Lest you forget, trees not only provide is with paper products, they are the source of our oxygen.  However, when I started researching this particular subject, I found many references that state that we have better forests now than we had 50 years ago – and that was from a report made only last month!  My immediate question was, how is that possible?  As I stated earlier, with the droughts, forest fires and landslides that were occurring around the world this summer alone, how could anyone make that statement?  Consider that the majority of the world uses toilet paper; books, newspapers, notebooks, post-it notes, magazines, instruction books and manuals, copy paper, billboard signs, cardboard boxes and so much more are still being produced everyday at a staggering rate – but trees grow overnight, right?  Consider this – in 2011, there were 7,012,000,000 people worldwide (that’s 7 billion).  Imagine how much toilet paper that amounts too!  It may seem funny to you, but if you’re accustomed to using it… not so funny now, is it?Let’s look at this with a different twist:  The world population is a bit higher than 7 billion and 5.6 billion people have cell phones; 1.1 billion computers(2012).  With each cell phone comes the individual box, the case it was shipped in; all the labels and the (instruction) manuals for operation.
    • While we’re on the subject of computers (desktop, laptop, or even hand-held… smartphones and even the basic ones), what makes up their main construction?  PlasticsHow is plastic made?  Here is an excerpt from the link provided:

    Petroleum to Plastics

    The technological road from oil field to finished plastic product has numerous fascinating side trips. Here’s the route taken in the petroleum-to-plastics process:

    1. Petroleum is drilled and transported to a refinery.

    2. Crude oil and natural gas are refined into ethane, propane, hundreds of other petrochemical products and, of course, fuel for your car.

    3. Ethane and propane are “cracked” into ethylene and propylene, using high-temperature furnaces.

    4. Catalyst is combined with ethylene or propylene in a reactor, resulting in “fluff,” a powdered material (polymer) resembling laundry detergent.

    5. Fluff is combined with additives in a continuous blender.

    6. Polymer is fed to an extruder where it is melted.

    7. Melted plastic is cooled then fed to a pelletizer that cuts the product into small pellets.

    8. Pellets are shipped to customers.

    9. Customers manufacture plastic products by using processes such as extrusion, injection molding, blow molding, etc.

Up to a few years ago, consumers had very little interest in ink other than to buy refills for their pens. Fountain pens became a novelty as the disposable ball point pen took over the market. The introduction of home computing led to home printing. Today it is rare to find a residence or business that does not have a printing capability. As a result, buying “ink” in the form of a cartridge or having that cartridge refilled at an inkjet island in a local mall has become a part of the day-to-day shopping experience, just as buying a bottle of ink was common 50 years ago.

Ink refilling services for printer cartridges are offered by large, official printing companies as well as smaller, “unofficial” refill companies. Customers can often cut printing costs by using refill services from a refill company.

High turnover of computers creates a steadily growing stream of computers to landfills. This e-waste is a source of toxic heavy metals, such as lead, mercury, arsenic and cadmium, which leach into the soil and underground water supplies from landfills.

It’s too late to change the road of physical destruction we’re on… well, that’s my opinion, but nevertheless, changing the physical can be seen from at least two angles:

  1. If we did change our physical world, how long would we have to deal with what we’ve already done to our physical source of life?  How long before it regenerates itself?
  2. Can we as humans really change the physical without changing how we think?  If it’s true that we do nothing without thinking about it first (thought becoming action), will the action come of its own without consciously being thought about?

When we no longer have our natural resources, will our products of convenience matter?  Many of us are having a fit over GMO’s, but don’t care about what’s happening to our environment that we can also stop.  When you have riches, but no sustainable food and water…

Sooner or later, you’ll have to decide which is more important.  Will it be too late when you do chose?

You tell me.


Know Yourself First

I intended to write on conformity – the reasons why we’re a society of conformists instead a society of individuals with a common goal and how all this came about.  I may write on this someday soon, but during my search for information to share and reference, I became overwhelmed.  Luckily, I archive a lot of material that I read and view.

I found this video filed away long ago in my YouTube account and viewed it once again just to see how it relates to what I wanted to present here today – it’s still wonderful after all this time!

This is a fifteen minute video that I feel was created very well and explains its subject matter with great ease, much thought and with the intent of having the viewer contemplate their current state of being; how he/she got where they are; what is hindering their understanding, hence their growth, and much more.

If you’re truly looking to grow… to become the person/individual you are supposed to be, take the time to view this.  If you’d like to talk/discuss this, please contact me via the “Comment” tab below this post.

Know yourself and set yourself free!

More tomorrow!


What We See, What is Seen and What is Understood

The world in which we live in is far more vast than we can even speculate upon.  The unfortunate part of this is that most of us – as a population – would rather concern ourselves with what I call, the mundane… the physical world in which we sense through physical means; sight, sound, smell, touch and taste – the sensory modes of the physical world.  Is there any wonder why there are so many that are addicted to watching movies, sports, anything visual including voyeurism?  I love listening to music, but there are those that are addicted to… talk radio.  Ahhhh, the scent of a woman: the touch of someone who cares, loves, and that of passion: and taste which leads many to over-eat.  But isn’t there more to life than the physical senses?

Let me break the following into two different groups; the mere conformist, which I’ll call merely, conformist; and those that live what they know, which I’ll call, spiritual.  Many years ago when I would engage others in conversations, or if they wished to engage me, I’d ask, “are you religious or spiritual?”  Many had no idea of what I meant, but some did.  Through my experiences, those that are “religious” are the conformists… if whatever is spoken about isn’t written in their scriptures, they either don’t have an opinion; it’s wrong; it doesn’t exist… anything negative, and their minds are closed to anything outside their realm of reality.  Those that are “spiritual” are those that usually admit openly that there is a world of possibilities yet to explore and understand and have little to no problem with incorporating religion and science in order to understand life better – as long as the two are in balance.

In yesterday’s post, we hinted a little on the “connectedness” of man.  Let’s delve a bit more into this today.

One of my thoughts concerning this connectedness has been, is there a type of mass hypnosis applied to all of humanity?  This I doubt, unless you wish to understand the limitations of our senses in a field of frequencies as hypnosis.  Just as our ears can only perceive sounds within certain frequencies, we have the same limitations in sight, taste, touch, smell… etc., but here, we’re only speaking of the physical: what of the spirit?

There are many things we can experience via our spirit… if you really want too.  When you break free from the conformities that we were taught, you begin to understand.  If you’re Christian, you’ll remember this expression, “Seek and you shall find…”.  When you remember that your scriptures (no matter what religion) teaches you the basics, the examples and is a guide to a better life, not only for you, but for all of humanity… to accept others as they are, not as you wish, or believe them to be… just search for your relationship with our Source, then you experience the real world of connectedness, which is spiritual.

Here is another video for you to learn from and contemplate deeply:

More tomorrow!