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First:  It’s my intention this week to build on a theme/a thought that will come to an ultimate conclusion which so far seems to be ending sometime next week – we shall see;

Second:  Starting in about 12 hours (these posts are usually posting at 12:15 am U.S. central time), there will be more posts from my friend Heidi.  Just for the record, I’m apolitical, but Heidi is just the opposite.  She has some unique views for you the reader and for those that are politically motivated.

All that’s written here is for you Think about!

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e·mo·tion   [ih-moh-shuhn] 
noun
1. an affective state of consciousness in which joy, sorrow, fear, hate, or the like, is experienced, as distinguished from cognitive and volitional states of consciousness.
2. any of the feelings of joy, sorrow, fear, hate, love, etc.
3. any strong agitation of the feelings actuated by experiencing love, hate, fear, etc., and usually accompanied by certain physiological changes, as increased heartbeat or respiration, and often overt manifestation, as crying or shaking.
4. an instance of this.
5. something that causes such a reaction: the powerful emotion of a great symphony.

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in·tu·i·tion   [in-too-ish-uhn, -tyoo-]
noun
1. direct perception of truth, fact, etc., independent of any reasoning process; immediate apprehension.
2. a fact, truth, etc., perceived in this way.
3. a keen and quick insight.
4. the quality or ability of having such direct perception or quick insight.
5. Philosophy .
a. an immediate cognition of an object not inferred or determined by a previous cognition of the same object.
b. any object or truth so discerned.
c. pure, untaught, noninferential knowledge.

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If your life is anything like mine, you often see, hear, read, or even tell others, “Follow your heart, it won’t lie to you.”  There is a problem with this expression – to follow ones heart means to follow ones emotions.  To follow your heart/your emotions, is dangerous and confusing… just ask almost any man how he likes to deal with emotions – not that men are devoid of emotions by any means.  What I mean here is; think back to some time(s) in your life where someones heart/emotions made a decision and what the outcome was.  Most such memories will present “bad” memories.  What’s even worse?  We still make decisions from our “feelings”.

On the other hand, what is meant by, “Follow your heart…” is, ‘follow your intuition.’  Intuition is what some of us call, ‘hearing that still, very tranquil voice that you know is part of you, but not you.’  That voice which when we listen and act upon what we hear, we learn it will not lead us in a way that will bring harm to ourselves, nor even others.  It’s difficult to trust that ‘voice’ from time-to-time, mainly because it tells us something that may take us away from our self-interest, but the more you act on what you ‘hear’ or know to be true, the greater the trust you develop with that ‘inner voice‘.

More on this tomorrow!

Have a wonderful week… and trust that inner voice!

Is Love Difficult?… or, What is Love?

 

 

 

In my lifetime, I’ve heard and read seemingly endless stories and descriptions of what love is and is not. Even the cute little cartoons titled, “Love is…” which ran in newspapers for… years, attempted to describe love. Movies from all genres got involved… is there any wonder that the world is confused about love?

 

To make it even more confusing, try to get people to describe “unconditional love”. People can’t agree on what love is, so why trust them to describe unconditional love?

 

I’ve come to know that there are simple and easy explanations for most everything, it’s when we think about something too much and/or try to make ourselves, “important” in the eyes of others that the simple becomes difficult and oft-times, corrupted. So, let’s go back to basics:

 

Unconditional love: This is the most basic love. It’s what makes babies of the animal kingdom so precious. No matter the animal, human or man-eating tiger, babies accept anyone and everyone unconditionally. We commonly call this type of love, innocence… mainly because it is – innocent. As we age, as we get older and supposedly wiser, we lose that innocence, and don’t understand why love has become conditional.

 

Conditional love: This is what we come to know of love as we gain knowledge, but forget wisdom. InnocenceThere isn’t anything wrong with conditional love, as a matter of fact, it’s necessary in our world. We love our girlfriend, boyfriend, husband wife… conditionally. Why? As long as the “other person” allows us to be ourselves with her or him, we’re happy – and as long as we’re happy with that person (condition), we love that person. When that person ceases to let us be ourselves and our happiness no longer exists with that person, our love starts looking for that lost happiness – if not found, we experience a heavy loss and great emptiness, thus ending the relationship. Does this mean that unconditional love no longer exists?

 

If you can understand that unconditional love is your innocence, that you can love someone unconditionally as a being that deserves love and respect, then you know unconditional love. If you can love someone, even if the person(s) is/are harming you… even if you have to kill the person to save your life, or the life of another, not killing for pleasure (including revenge or any sense of personal satisfaction), but only as a necessity to preserve the life of someone who has done no one harm, this is an example of how I see unconditional love expressed in adults.

 

I hope these simple examples help.

 

Keep it simple – love yourself, love others, and be loved

 

All the best, always!