2013 Update

For those that are still subscribed to this blog – GOOD NEWS!  (possibly)

First of all, allow me to apologize for not continuing my blogging: I got burned-out from blogging five days per weeks and working on other things.

Secondly, since some other plans didn’t work out as I had hoped, I’ve created the Your Thoughts Your Reality Radio (YTYR Radio) program, which the blog entries that appear YTYR-Logo-Largebelow are coming from.  This is an internet based show which is currently being archived in YouTube and soon, in other locations as podcast’s.

We – my co-hosts and I – hope that you will follow the blogs which will become a five day a week entry (one per day from each host) and our bi-weekly shows on Tuesday’s and Thursday’s.  For more information, click on the second “Home” tab in the navigation bar above.  I’ve had our YTYR Radio information imported to this blog page, so pardon me for any confusion that occurs from the combination of tabs in the above nav bar.

If you wish to contact me or my co-hosts, there is a “Contact” page in the new site and so much more.

We hope to see you there!

All the best, always!

K. William Spencer – YTYR Radio

“AND ANOTHER THING…”

The following is a post from a contributing author, Pat Kammer.  There will be more articles from Pat coming in the  near future.  If you’d like to know more about Pat and even get her, “Pat’s Patters”, follow the link at the bottom of this post.
Thank you for your interest and for following Your Thoughts Your Reality Radio.
K. William Spencer

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Have you ever met with a friend and been sucked into their drama? Or, for that matter, it may be a family member whose story you have heard many times, and here it comes again, wearing a slightly different colour.

We’ve all had this experience. I have been asked to say something about being sucked in yet again by the same old stuff. How do we stop the madness? Things can be going along so peacefully and if it weren’t for people getting in the way, life would be pure bliss. I have news for you: there is a way not to get pulled into the dramas other people are living in.

I have a saying, “There is God’s business, other people’s business, and my business.” Spirit tells me I should mind my business and let Him mind other people’s business. But, Spirit, how do I do that when people are constantly repeating their stuff to me?

The truth is that I have come to not mind other people rehashing their stuff because it doesn’t affect me any more. Maybe it has even become a bit boring. I try not to yawn. But I have a way to get past it. I will share it at the end of this discourse.

 Spirit, would you shed some light on this issue, please?

 Other people’s stuff, as you put it, are their truths and very important to them. They believe their dramas are very real and is the only thing of any importance in any given moment. They hash it out to you so they can have a sounding board outside of themselves. Most are not sure of their own feelings in any given situation. They are not aware of what role they play in their own drama. They have a need to bounce their thoughts off other people to get feedback to assure them and help them with their own uncertainty. They don’t want to be made wrong. They need empowerment from outside themselves. Most of the time they just want to be heard and do not especially want any advice or answers.

Of course, their rehashing of their drama never helps them because the problem remains inside them, never outside them. They have a movie running inside their mind that plays over and over. Most movies have a beginning, middle and ending. However, there is no ending to this sort of movie because it is always in limbo with plenty going on in the middle but never coming to an end or a resolution. The beginning has been forgotten because most people do not remember what got them into their drama. They just know it feels very real in the moment.

 The way to stay calm and centred and have no attachments to anyone’s drama is to remember several things. It isn’t real. It is their illusion. It is their truth and no one else’s. They have given everything the meaning it has for them and, finally, anyone’s drama is a part of time which does not exist.

 I have taken this advice to heart. I refuse to take people’s dramas seriously. I can be empathetic and understanding to the fact that their drama is very serious to them. But, in order to remain unaffected, I realize it is their movie and I have no right being in it. So I listen politely and have empathy for them. I know this too shall pass. I see an ending even if they don’t. I picture it for them as if it has already happened. And it always is a happy ending. Because time doesn’t exist, we can project an ending as if it were already here. We can envision the person smiling and happy with the outcome.

This too shall pass” is a truth hard to escape. Getting caught up in dramas solves nothing. What happens if we, too, get dragged into the movie others are Pat Kammerproducing and become so affected that we cannot be calm? What if we become as insane as they are? Then the movie just gained another player, and the drama has grown to even bigger proportions. We become part of the problem, and not the answer.

I do spiritual counselling called trance-therapy, and this Spiritual wisdom has helped me tremendously, not only in counselling but in my own personal dramas and, as well, those of close friends and family.

It does not help to be sucked in. It only helps to be a calming influence for ourselves and for others. The way to do it is simple. Being mindful of it is the trick. With practise and repetition it can be habit-forming. The teaching here is part of fifth-dimension thinking.

Whenever I am speaking with people and they begin talking about their past and their worry of the future, I have learned to look down on it from above. I see things from a different angle and somehow things do not look serious from above. Movies are recognized for what they really are with a beginning and an end; the middle does not matter and is never remembered much. Spirit sees things from this angle. Spirit knows there is nothing to fear and there is nothing to worry about or get upset over. Spirit knows the beginning and the end. I have become used to dwelling in this dimension of thinking, and strive to think with this mindset. Wow! What a difference this makes to our bliss. And another thing: Spirit knows the end of the movie. We are never judged, and we are abundant, smiling, and free. Most importantly, we are loved.

So be it, and so it is.

Namaste

Pat Kammer

www.lovesvoicechangesyou.com

Do You Worry, or Do You Live Life?

Ya know, some of the most difficult and annoying lessons to learn are the ones that you already know – so I guess that’s called “re-learning.”

Over the past few weeks, I became wrapped up in what I thought was “concern” for some aspects of my future: concern is what I was telling myself it was – it was worry.  Think of it this way:  all ofNegativeThoughts us have “a past”, and some of us live life and let the past, be past.  There are those of us that live in the past and find the present and the future to be difficult to deal with… then there are those of us that call being concerned about something in the past and how it will affect our future, “planning for the future”.

Planning for the future should always be understood as, and lived as making positive plans and aspirations for some wonderful goal.  If you’re a parent, or a parent to be, the best plans are for your child(rens) health, education (at home and school) and what kind of adult will they grow to be.  If you’re a business owner, you do your best to plan the how’s and what’s that will make your business a success – we all do our best to plan the best for our futures.  However, there is another thought that permeates our thinking.

There are those of us that, for what ever reason, think of all that can go wrong rather than all that can go well.  If you know these kinds of people, you may find yourself asking them or just asking yourself, why is it this person works so hard at succeeding, but never gets there?  This is not to say that every person focuses on wealth:  I’m speaking about a persons personal goals, whether for her or his self, a family member, business, art, or just for fun.  You may be asking the same of yourself.

If your thoughts are focusing on what can, what may go wrong, how it can or will go wrong, is it any wonder that you or the “other” person never succeeds at what you or they say they want?  This sounds so simple, and guess what?  It is!  So, why do you and others find it so difficult to focus on the things you want to accomplish, and/or have?  Is it because you were taught to think that way?  Your peers think and speak that way?  The people you socialize with, you work with, your home life whether past or present is that way?

No one living alone with the ability to do what they deny themselves to be able to do ever said, “I’m too lazy to get up to eat, I just can’t get up…” and got to the kitchen to eat.  Maybe someone dropped by which forced them to get up, but left alone… However, if there is something that is only to be accomplished by you and no one else, and you think yourself out of it, it will NOT get done.  Why?  Your thoughts made you accept failure.

Let’s bring this thought home:  recently, even I had to “re-learn” that dwelling on a past action that I thought I’d have to deal with in a way that I didn’t want too was a concern.  It turned out to be,stop-recycling-thoughts-dr-diva-verdun-2 that once I was honest with myself, I had to admit it was fear driven, which is a negative thought.  Once I realized that, once I admitted that to myself, I was able to change my thoughts, then my journey into the future, from then until now, has improved greatly!  … and I do mean, Greatly!

So kiddies (to be a little light-hearted), what’s the moral of this thought and story?  Be honest with yourself and see who and what you really are; see what thoughts are holding you back and why – then change them…

… or continue your current path if it suits you, but please don’t complain…

I really do wish you all the best, always.

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Welcome to the New Site for Your Thoughts Your Reality Radio

If you didn’t know, I’ve decided to change the format of the show and with that comes the update to the website!

Starting in the second week of August, I’ll have four (yes, 4) co-hosts!  All of the co-hosts are very “spiritual” people and each will take around two turns being my co-hosts per month.  It is our plans to answer your questions on air, just send us your questions via the “Contact” page and we’ll answer them as quickly as we can.  It is my desire to have all of the co-hosts in one broadcast at least once per month so we can have an open discussion.

I know this is something that you’ll enjoy, so please “Stay Tuned!”