I’d love to insert some cute adage, expression, or famous quotation here, but I think the following excerpts from the article and the video (in the article) will say it all:
Failure is everywhere. It's just that most of the time we'd rather avoid confronting that fact. Behind all of the most popular modern approaches to happiness and success is the simple philosophy of focusing on things going right. But ever since the first philosophers of ancient Greece and Rome, a dissenting perspective has proposed the opposite: that it's our relentless effort to feel happy, or to achieve certain goals, that is precisely what makes us miserable and sabotages our plans. And that it is our constant quest to eliminate or to ignore the negative – insecurity, uncertainty, failure, sadness – that causes us to feel so insecure, anxious, uncertain or unhappy in the first place.
Relating to the video:
For the Stoics, the ideal state of mind was tranquility – not the excitable cheer that positive thinkers usually seem to mean when they use the word "happiness". And tranquility was to be achieved not by chasing after enjoyable experiences, but by cultivating a kind of calm indifference towards one's circumstances. One way to do this, the Stoics argued, was by turning towards negative emotions and experiences: not shunning them, but examining them closely instead.
Ok, I hope this has whet your appetite for more, mainly because I have no intent of copying the whole article here, but I will give you the link so you can read it for yourself.
Link: The title of the article is, “Happiness is a Glass Half Empty” from the Guardian newspaper in the U.K. – http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2012/jun/15/happiness-is-being-a-loser-burkeman
All the best to you, always!
- The Stoic Approach to 5 Toxic Beliefs That Ruin Careers (stoiclawyer.wordpress.com)
- 11 Simple Ways to be Happier (my.psychologytoday.com)